This place is a far cry from the head-injury groups where I started on the internet (and where I'm still a mod at one of them). But might I be permitted to "import" something that almost always works wonders there?
((((Hugs)))) all around -- regardless of gender, ages and age-differences, and even number of people involved. Sure, the smiting is a royal pain -- but I think we can probably agree that whoever's behind it is most likely not a regular here, even if he/she's been active enough to have acquired smite/applaud "ability".
C'mon, crew, let's stick together for problem-solving, which last I looked is why we're here.