After note 4 in your post:
You should have got an Are you sure full window style notification, did you get that and answer Yes ?
Your note 5 and 6:
I didn't go down that route as I never got to the point that I was offered 1903 so nothing to fix. Did it ever say what needed fixing ?
Have you tried using the Windows Update Assistant ?
After some hiccups, unrelated to avast that worked for me (having previously disabled the avast self-defence module..