well one of my issue is if I uninstall avast (which I did already), connection will be refused. and since there will be no way for me to "enable" it anymore. so I installed avast again and enabled email scanning, lo and behold email sending works again
but the thing is, I have 2 email AV working at the same time, since the other is already integrated with the email program.
by the way, to test connection I'm using telnet accessing port 25, so this should not be an SSL issue.
for some reason if avast email is disabled, its like the connection is going somewhere else other than the target server. which should not be the case.
sorry for the video resolution
http://www.onghocgan.net/avastvid/avast6issuehd.avibetter quality version video
hope you guys could help me out, my last option would be a full reformat and use other av (which I don't prefer)