Thanks
alanrf. realVNC is real easy to get use to.

Tonight after backing up the desktop machine I uninstalled PC-cillin and rebooted the machine. I tried and was able to connect to it with the notebook using realVNC.
I then reinstalled avast! on the desktop machine. I noticed this time an avast! warning msg about a Zone Alarm incompatibility. It asked if I wanted the incompatibility disabled, I chose Yes. I think the last time I installed avast! I may have replied No. I vaguely recall a window under another window and clicking quickly and them going away but this was the 1st time I remember reading about the Zone Alarm conflict. (BTW My ZA is version 4.5.538)
Anyways, I clicked Yes, avast! came up along with several ZA alerts requesting 'net access. I replied to them, updated avast! iAVS and Program updates and rebooted. Avast! came up along with the several ZA alerts again, I replied and everything seemed stable.
I then tried accessing the desktop machine with realVNC from the notebook and voila, I'm in.

So my problem was not replying properly to the Zone Alarm / avast! compatibility issue.
It doesn't sound like you encountered my problem but for the sake of others I wanted to document my experience.
Thanks for your help
alanrf.
@igor Thanks for the update on the BART sw. I did read up on it here and found that it was a totally different beast than what I originally thought.