Thanks both,
I've changed my password. While in BT webmail I deleted the undelivered mail and then I noticed the draft folder had tons of mail of the same sort as the spam mail.
I assume it sits there and is mailed when I download to Thunderbird?
My husband received one of them and so did a distant cousin. There is no reason for either of them to have the others address in their contacts. The common denominator is me.
Thanks for your help - lets hope that's fixed it.
I will increase mail protection. If there is anything else I should do, please let me know. For the moment, fingers crossed.
Regards,
Penelope