can't find where to start a new message
At the top of each forum there is a button called "new topic" except for the forums that are closed or that you are not allowed to start a new topic.
I just installed AVAST on a friend's PC - a tech.put SP2 on it -we're using XP - but the Spinning Ball icon that was in the system tray has GONE!!! -its not hidden either - checked that.
If you just installed it there was no "spinning ball" to begin with since Avast wasn't installed
try a repair of Avast and see if it solve the problem.
I can't figure out how to get the scanner to show when emails are coming in
It only shows when checking email, and if there is just one mail or very small mails Avast is so fast you won't even notice it. You can check if the mail (or email) scanner is working with the eicar test file
And you mentioned that this is happening on a XP system, than why the heck are you posting in the server edition on this forum? XP isn't a server OS nor does it require a server edition of Avast.